If You Have a Crush on Someone, Do Not Do These Three Things

Please, learn from my mistakes.

Martha Lueck
4 min readSep 17, 2021


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Some people have all the confidence in the world to walk up to someone they find attractive and charm them in one conversation. Other people can appear confident by masking it with sheer awkwardness. Yes, I will admit to being one of the latter in my teens and early twenties. Here are some things I learned never to do when dealing with a crush.

Unless you have a good singing voice, do not sing a song for your crush.

Back in 2004, I was a bit awkward with boys and…life in general. One year, my family went to Wisconsin for a weeklong camping trip. It was a beautiful camp with parks, bike paths, and very nice people. Oh, and one hot boy! He was an athletic and tall 15-year old with a radiant smile, dark brown eyes, and sexy curls. Not to mention he loved rock bands! I loved rock bands, too! *Squeal*

Well, my tomboy outfits, metallic smile (from braces), and cool rollerblading skills didn’t impress him at all. His eyes were set on a gorgeous blonde girl. So I realized that the only way to get this boy to look at me would be to sing a song for him!

After asking his siblings about his favorite bands, I decided to sing a song by Linkin Park at the talent show. (Very poor choice for the mood, I know). Right after my performance, people moaned and my crush started laughing. To top it all off, he sang a romantic song to the blonde girl! Apparently, my singing wasn’t the only thing off-key that night.

Do not beg a high school crush to read your love note.

During my senior year of high school, it took a long time for me to finally get the nerve to give my crush a love note. The timing had to be just right. So when there was a break in gym class, everyone dispersed to talk among friends and refill their water bottles. When no one else was around, I hesitantly walked up to my crush. The interaction went something like this.

Me: Hey, [Crush]!

Crush: Hey, Martha. What’s up?

Me: I have…something for you. *Quickly hands him the note*

Crush: Okay? What’s



Martha Lueck

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